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What Really Causes a Midlife Crisis? ...

Dean & Carlos' Desk - Sunday, 4:20 AM:

QUESTION ABOUT MIDLIFE CRISIS:

Carlos & Dean,

I recently turned 40. This birthday hit me a lot harder than I thought it would. I've been reflecting a lot on my life, and I decided to “turn back the clock” and start acting and feeling younger. (Most of my married buddies act like they’re 40 going on 65!)

I went to the salon and had the gray colored out of my hair, I bought a new wardrobe of cool clothes, and I've been going to the gym and getting back in shape. I see this as self-improvement, but my wife says I'm going through a “midlife crisis.” She’s even suspicious that I might be cheating on her. (I'm not.)

I've been with her for 16 years and we've got two kids together. I still love her, but to be honest, there’s a part of me that does want to be back out there on the scene, flirting with women and dating.

Maybe I just want to prove to myself that I've “still got it.” Is this midlife crisis just a natural phase that guys my age go through, and grow out of?

Peter
Dallas, Texas
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CARLOS & DEAN EXPLAIN THE MIDLIFE CRISIS:

An interesting book came out recently, called Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters. It was written by two evolutionary psychologists. This brand of psychology believes that people are basically an animal species, and that today we’re still driven by the same animal needs that motivated us 10,000 years ago.

In fact, the behaviors we exhibit today are based in pre-historic survival needs.

If you've read our book The Alpha Rules, you know we follow this same line of thinking. The Alpha Man is far savvier and more sophisticated than his ancient ancestors, but the rules of the game have not really changed.

As men, our most powerful impulse is the need to find the right mate (or mates) and produce healthy offspring. (i.e., the survival of our genetic legacy.)

Women, meanwhile, are searching for an Alpha Man to give them security and raise children with. A woman might get married in the meantime, but if her husband isn't an Alpha, it won’t be long before she starts looking at other options.

A non-Alpha is never going to fulfill her core requirements for a mate.

Throughout history, the great conquerors, politicians and moguls have usually been driven by the desire to be more sexually attractive to women, which therefore gives them more reproductive options.

Do you actually think most politicians choose that career out of a sincere desire to better the world… or are they motivated by other reasons? Even fame, a drive for all the people flocking to Hollywood to "make it big," has its roots in the evolutionary needs of social power.

Men of high status are much more likely to attain “high reproductive success” than men of lowly status. Moulay Ismail - "the Bloodthirsty"- the last Sharifian emperor of Morocco, left 1042 offspring—over a thousand! That's more than anyone else on record.

A more recent example of this motivation is one we're all familiar with: Bill Clinton, the most powerful man in the world during his tenure as president, who risked everything for a fling with a 24-year-old intern.

This wasn't just a midlife crisis, either. From an evolutionary perspective, what he did was perfectly logical and expected.

Asking why a powerful man would cheat on his wife is like asking why a rich man would spend money. They do it because they can.

As Chris Rock quipped, “A man is only as faithful as his options.”

We don’t condone cheating, and we’re certainly not excusing it, but it's a fact that it does happen, and we must understand why it happens. Keep in mind that it has also been established that women cheat as much as men, but they are much better at keeping it a secret.

We've all heard about guys going through the dreaded “midlife crisis.” Usually this involves a guy hits a certain age, and suddenly feels the urge to look and act more youthful. The cliché is the middle-aged guy who goes out and splurges on a new sports car.

Evolutionary psychologists believe the “midlife crisis” is real, but it happens for reasons you wouldn't expect. It’s not because the man has reached middle age; it’s because his wife has. The midlife crisis is triggered because his wife is about to enter (or has entered) menopause, meaning she can no longer reproduce.

This in turn makes the man feel a renewed need to attract younger women, in order to have a way to continue producing offspring.

On a conscious level, the middle-aged guy might not have any interest in having more kids. But on a deeper, primal level, he is being driven to pursue this.

He’s probably not thinking to himself, “Hmm... My wife is getting too old to bear children, so I’d better go out there and find a fertile young hottie.” But his primitive needs are telling him to do so.

The famed "Seven Year Itch" has actually been researched and found to be false.

It's a THREE year itch.

Most couples that have not had a child after 3 years start to feel the pull towards other sexual partners because the union has not resulted in the bearing of a child. Our minds turn off to that person on a certain level because they haven't proven themselves as fertile.

While we're at it, here’s another interesting factoid: A 50-year-old guy married to a 25-year-old woman probably won't experience a midlife crisis. But a 25-year-old guy married to a 50-year-old woman probably will.

So, the midlife crisis really doesn't have anything with the man reaching a certain age. It’s about the age of his partner.

There’s no question that the biology of men and women is a key factor in attraction, and whether the women you desire are going to be interested in you.

We'll teach you in The Alpha Rules that you CAN become extremely attractive to women, and trigger their biological instincts, without possessing wealth, fame or power. There are other, more subtle ways for you to project Alpha Power that women will instinctively respond to.

This way, no matter how young or old you are, you’re never going to experience the “crisis” that most men feel when they realize they’re with the wrong mate.

You’re going to be IN CHARGE of your own destiny with women, and as a man, that is one of the most satisfying feelings you will ever have.

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- Carlos & Dean

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